Personal-Development

Fear to Live!

Writing by bwerner on Friday, 4 of July , 2008 at 11:53 am

The aspiration of modern men is to reconcile the antithetical aspects of his personality: he is in the body like an animal, but at the level of the Ego would he like to be similar to a deity. The fate of an animal is the death, which the Ego tries to avoid nourishing divine aspirations. Nevertheless, in trying to avoid their fate men creates a worse: living with the fear of live.

We want love, but we fear to be vulnerable. We want to open ourselves, but we fear the rejection. We want deep feelings, but we fear to be crushed by emotions.
Conditioned to seek success in social terms rather than human success, we give us to a frenetic activity. From this conflict comes a tremendous despair, because beneath the surface of our convulsive life there is constantly the presence of pain. 

To free ourselves from those debilitating fears and replace the “being” with the “to do” is proposed a combination of work on the body and analysis of character that brings to light and resolves the deep sources of the sense of guilt and anger. Instead of changing the self, a bio-energetic therapy seeks to establish a harmony between the exterior and interior world with auto-acceptation, the mastery of self and the auto-expression. The result will be a much more fully life, happier and healthier. (Meditation and Yoga)

Saying that the auto-acceptation determines a change of the own destiny may seem a contradiction, but it is not. When you stop fighting against the fate, you get the rid of the neurosis (inner conflict) and you reach serenity. The result is a different attitude (one is not afraid to live) expressed by a different character and joined to a different fate. In this way, the individual will have the courage to live and die, and be able to auto-realization.

In our culture, we give importance to action, to the accomplished act. The modern individual is required to be successful, not to “being a person”. He belongs to an “active generation” whose motto is “to do more”, but feel less. This attitude characterizes much of modern sexuality: more action but less passion.

Is it the destiny of modern men to be neurotic, being afraid of life? My answer is yes, if we consider modern man belonging to a culture whose values are the dominant power and progress. Since these values characterizes the Western civilization in the twentieth century, results that every person who lives in this civilization is neurotic.

The neurotic individual is in conflict with himself. A portion of him attempts to dominate the other. His Ego tries to subjugate the body, and his rational thought to control the emotions, his will tries to overcome fears and anxieties. Although this conflict is unconscious, its effect is to exhaust the energies of a person and to destroy the peace of mind.
The neurosis is an internal conflict. The neurotic character takes different forms, but all involve a struggle within the individual between what is and what it believes to be. All neurotics are involved in this fight.

Our goals are the power and progress, but we want the pleasure, peace and stability. We do not realize that personal power and pleasure are opposing values and that often the first makes the second impossible. Power inevitably leads to a fight that often opposes the father to the son, the brother to the brother. It’s a separator force in a community. Progress requires a constant activity to transform the old into new, with the conviction that the new is always superior to the old. Although this may be true in some technical areas, this is a dangerous belief. Generalizing, this implies that the son is superior to the father or that tradition is simply the dead weight of the past. There are cultures in which dominate other values, where respect for the past and tradition is more important than the desire for change. In these cultures the conflict is minimized and neurosis rare.

The cultural process that gave rise to modern society and modern men has been the development of the Ego. This development is associated to the acquisition of knowledge and the conquest of the power over nature. Men belong to nature as any other animal and are fully subject to its laws, but he is also on the top of nature, because he is acting on it and controls it.
Men behave in the same way with his intimate nature, a part of his personality, the Ego, rebels to the animal part, the body. The antithesis between Ego and body produces a dynamic tension that promotes the process of culture, but it also contains a potential for destruction. When the separation between Ego and body is such that there is no more contact, the result is the psychotic collapse: I believe that in our culture we have reached this dangerous moment. 

Human life is full of contradictions, and to recognize and accept them is a test of wisdom.
Saying that the acceptance of the own fate determines a change may seem a contradiction, but it is not.
When you stop to fight against destiny, you get the rid of neurosis (internal conflict) and you reach serenity. The result is a different attitude (no more fear to live) expressed by a different character coupled with a different fate.

Therefore, it becomes necessary to look inside ourselves to understand our most intimate feelings and aspirations, because only this can lead us to a personal clarification that shows us that what really makes  the wellbeing in our existence, which frees us from the slavery of the internal conflict and collective neurosis. In this way, it leads us to peace and in the end to happiness.
The best way to practice such is the meditation what allows us to see with calm our most intimate feelings, doing it with a background of meditative music eases and ensures an easy progress and achievement of our self-realization.

Psychic Identity

What is self esteem?

The biggest fear is fear itself

Synthesis of Spiritual Medicine = Consciousness

Definition of Consciousness

Category: Meditation, Personal Development, psychology

• Add this post to
• Del.icio.us -
• Meneame -
• Digg

You must be logged in to post a comment.