Writing by bwerner on Wednesday, 20 of August , 2008 at 7:53 am
Most people’s thoughts about themselves fluctuate daily based on their everyday experiences. How your friends treat you, how well you have done at something, changes in your romantic relationship can all have a temporary impact on your well-being.
Your self-esteem, however, is something more fundamental than the normal “ups and downs” of everyday life. If someone has healthy self esteem normal “ups and downs” may lead to temporary fluctuations in how they feel about themselves but only to a limited extent. For someone who has poor self-esteem these “ups and downs” can make all the difference in the world.
Where does our self esteem come from?
Self-esteem is largely developed during our childhood. It evolves throughout our lives as we build an image of ourselves through our experiences with different people and activities. When we are growing up, our successes and failures and how we are treated by our immediate family, teachers and our peers all contribute to the creation of our self-esteem. For example experiences in childhood that lead to healthy self-esteem include:
• Being praised
• Being listened to
• Being spoken to with respect
• Having trustworthy friends
• Experiencing success in school
Experiences that lead to low self-esteem include:
• Being badly criticized
• Being shouted at
• Being ridiculed, teased or ignored
• Experiencing failure in school
• Being expected to be “perfect” all the time
What does your “inner voice” say?
Everything we have experienced in the past is still alive inside us in the form of an “inner voice”. We don’t often “hear” this voice in the same way we would a spoken one but it acts in a similar way, constantly repeating those original messages to us.
For people with healthy self-esteem our inner voice reassures us and sends positive messages. For people with low self-esteem the inner voice becomes a harsh critic constantly criticizing and belittling their accomplishments.
The three “characters” of low self-esteem
Most of us have an image of what someone with low self-esteem looks like but it is not always obvious. Below are 3 examples of types of people who suffer from low self-esteem:
1. The Impostor – this person always acts happy and successful but is actually terrified of failing. They need continuous success to maintain their mask of positive self-esteem and this can lead to problems with perfectionism, procrastination, competition and ultimately burn-out.
2. The Rebel – this person acts as if the opinions of others – especially important or powerful people – don’t matter. They always need to prove that other’s criticisms or judgements don’t hurt and they carry around a lot of anger about not feeling “good enough”. This can lead to problems like blaming others all the time, breaking the law or rules or fighting against authority.
3. The Loser – this person is unable to cope with the world and they wait for someone to come to the rescue. They tend to use self-pity or indifference as a shield against fear of taking responsibility for changing their life. This can lead to problems such as under-achievement, excessive reliance on others in relationships or lacking any assertiveness skills.
Consequences of low self-esteem
• It can create anxiety, stress, loneliness and increased chances of developing depression
• It can cause problems with relationships and friendships
• It can seriously impair job and academic performance
• It can lead to underachievement and an increased vulnerability to alcohol or drug abuse
How to improve your self-esteem
Before you can even attempt to improve your self-esteem you must first believe that you can change it and also you must need to want to change it. Change doesn’t happen overnight and is not always easy but it can happen! Once you have accepted that you have the power to do something there are 3 steps you can take to begin to change your self-esteem.
1. Challenge the inner critic - here are typical examples of the inner critic’s voice and how you can challenge what it is saying:
Inner critic: Unfairly harsh – “People said they liked what I did but it was nowhere as good as it should have been. I can’t believe no-one noticed all the mistakes I made” Challenge: Be reassuring – “They really liked it. Maybe it wasn’t perfect but I did a good job. I am proud of myself. This was a success”
Generalising unrealistically – “I got a really low mark in this test. I am such an idiot, I don’t understand anything. I shouldn’t be doing this course” Be specific – “I didn’t do as well on this test but I have done ok on the others. There are some things I don’t understand yet but I have done well in other classes that were just as tough as this”
Makes leaps of illogic – “He is frowning at me. He hasn’t said anything but I know it means he doesn’t like me” Think it through logically – “Ok, he’s frowning but it may have nothing to do with me, he could have something worrying him – maybe I should ask him?”
Turning everything into a catastrophe – “She turned me down for a date. I’ll never find a partner. I’ll always be alone” Be objective – “That was a bit embarrassing. Still, I know I’m a nice and attractive person. I’ll find someone else”
It sounds so simple doesn’t it? But you would be surprised at how many people find it difficult to challenge their inner critic! With practice it can be done….
2. Look after and value yourself – you are a deserving and competent person who deserves the best out of life. If you introduce the following tips into your life you will feel a lot better about yourself:
• Get enough sleep, eat healthily, take regular exercise, practice good hygiene
• Go to the cinema, take a nap, have a massage, adopt a pet, spend some time in the garden – DO WHAT YOU ENJOY
• Spend time with positive friends, compliment yourself for achieving something, buy yourself something
• Remind yourself of your strengths/achievements, keep a list of all the things you like about yourself, keep mementos of things you have achieved where you can see them, keep a “success” file of any certificates/awards etc you have and refer to it on a regular basis
• If you make a mistake, just forgive yourself and move on. None of us are perfect!
• “Fake it” until you can “make it” – when you continue to treat yourself well you will feel better about yourself even if initially you don’t believe you deserve it.
3. Get help from others - this is not always easy for people with low self-esteem as they feel they don’t deserve help. However, since low self-esteem is often caused by how others have treated you in the past, you may need the help of others in the present to challenge negative past experiences.
• Ask for support from friends – ask them to tell you what they like about you or what they think you do well
• Ask someone to just listen whilst you “vent” your feelings for a while without trying to “fix” things
• Ask for a hug
• Ask someone who loves you to remind you that they do and why
Sometimes low self-esteem can feel so painful or difficult to overcome that the help of a therapist or counsellor is needed.
One of the advantages of talking to a therapist or counsellor is that you can say anything
in a confidential environment without being judged or having your feelings dismissed as “silly”.
By www.holistictherapiesspain.com
Get through the Illusion of Limitation
Finding Your Identity
Synthesis of Spiritual Medicine = Consciousness
Psychic Identity
Fear to Live!
Category: Personal Development, psychology
Writing by bwerner on Monday, 11 of August , 2008 at 9:48 am
Stay in tune, with my nex post I’ll set you in front of some Test’s for your brain where you can discover who you are.
There is an ancient Tibetan spiritual and religious discipline called Bon whose belief is that the way we think affects everything we do. They believe that to become emotionally and spiritually rich we need to learn how to think skilfully. They also believe that by understanding and transforming our thoughts it is the key to overcoming one of the biggest obstacles in our lives which is fear.
According to Bon there are 12 types of fear that dominate our lives. We may feel one, several or most of these fears and they can become part of our emotional reality from very early on. Yet we are all capable of living without fear, we just need to be careful with our thoughts and start to examine how we live our lives.
The 12 types of fear are divided into two categories – fears within our minds and fears that come about in the material world that we all experience. It can be difficult to separate one from the other as the two groups often overlap. With self-examination and careful thinking you can recognise your own particular fears and discover the extent to which each of them exists within you.
Fears of the mind
These can bring us confusion, pain and stop us from changing the way we think, feel and act.
1. Fear of being yourself
All the following 11 fears originate from this one. The experience of truly knowing yourself is scary for some people – it is life-changing. By acknowledging and understanding this fear we heal all the others.
2. Fear of other people
Most of us have experience being scared of another person at some point in our lives. Let’s face it, a lot of the violence, terrorism and evil in this world is as a result of countries and religions being scared of other countries and religions! When we are no longer afraid of others we gain love of ourselves and a love of all living creatures.
3. Fear of power & control
All power and control which is not motivated by the best of intentions will always be artificial and this will be a burden to those who use it. Even power and control over yourself will hold you back if you don’t share it with others through lack of kindness and generosity.
4. Fear of love
A lot of people are scared of falling in love especially if they have had a previous bad experience. There are also people who long to be in love yet are worried that they will be rejected once the other person discovers their shortcomings. It’s when you find the courage to love fully that you are participating in life completely.
5. Fear of loneliness
If you are afraid of being on your own it means you have not yet discovered the joy of your own company. To be happy and content around other people you firstly need to be happy and content with yourself.
6. Fear of fear itself
For some people their greatest fear is fear itself! To avoid it they become isolated and lonely and hold back from taking part in life. The Tibetan Bon tradition states this fear of fear is not prompted by any outside factor even if you feel it is.
7. Fear of death & dying
Life is fragile and we all know that nothing lives forever. What we need to change however is our perception that death is a bad thing.
Fears of the material world
These are the fears that stop us from living successfully and harmoniously in our daily lives.
8. Fear of success & failure
Some people are scared of success because not only have their dreams come true but they now have to take responsibility for their success. It is exactly the same for failure – when we fail we have to accept and take responsibility for the loss of our dreams. Some people never allow themselves to succeed or fail so great is their fear of both. The only way to overcome this fear is to try and understand why you need and deserve either your success or your failure. From this understanding comes serenity which is far more valuable than either success or failure.
9. Fear of poverty & wealth
The desire to have a lot of money comes from feeling unsafe in the world whilst the fear of poverty comes from feeling in constant danger. Both situations can create anger for they come from the desire to control the material world. However, it is virtually impossible to change the material world when you are in a state of fear. To heal either fear it is important to understand what you have in the world and why and to learn how to use it skilfully. Poverty can be overcome but if your fear of poverty is driving you to make money it will ultimately cause harm to your personality.
10. Fear of the future & what it will bring
Most of us have moments when we are afraid of what the future may bring. This comes from dissatisfaction and the inability to be content with what we have emotionally and spiritually. We have this fear when we are not fully aware of the value of life that we have now. We need to take time to consider our current life or situation and accept it with all the good and bad aspects. The emotional and spiritual value in our present life is the catalyst for our connection to serenity and once we have this connection the future is nothing to be afraid of.
11. Fear of achievement & self esteem
This fear comes about when we come to believe that achievement and a sense of self esteem are the same thing. People believe that if they achieve more they will raise their self-esteem but at the same time they fear achievement feeling they can’t manage it or cope with it because their self esteem is low. The trick is not to get caught up in this vicious circle. Self esteem is the benefit that you or others will gain from this achievement.
12. Fear of war & illness
Throughout history there has always been war but today the fear of war is more prevalent than it has ever been. This is mainly because TV, radio, newspapers etc are able to bring war into our homes. Years ago this was not the case.
The fear of illness is also on the increase as again we are made aware of the many threats of disease that exist. Yes, in the past people lived shorter lives but they had fewer fears of illness or war because they were not forced to confront them on a daily basis via the media.
By www.holistictherapiesspain.com
Psychic Identity
Fear to Live!
Definition of Consciousness
What is self esteem?
Synthesis of Spiritual Medicine = Consciousness
Category: Buddhism, Personal Development, psychology
Writing by bwerner on Tuesday, 5 of August , 2008 at 7:38 pm
Be the change you wish to see in the world - Ghandi
Not out of the door you know the world. Not watching from the window you can see the way of heaven. LAO-TZU
Throughout history it was found that the human mind is capable of two types of knowledge, the first mode is that rational held in high regard in the West, the second is that intuitive which generally exactly the opposite is, and is suitable for the oriental attitude.
The rational conscience belongs to the field of science and intellect, whose function is to analyze, discriminate, divide, compare, measure and sort into categories.
The rational conscience is a system of abstract concepts and symbols, considering in this way the natural environment as if it were made up of separate parts, and constructs an intellectual map of reality, in which things are reduced to their contours.
The eastern thought and more generally the mystical thought, provides to the theories of contemporary science an important and coherent philosophical reference: a conception of the world in which the two key issues are the unity and interdependence of all phenomena, and considers the human as an integral part of this system.
What is relevant to the Eastern mystics is the research of a direct experience of reality that transcends not only the intellectual thought, but also the sensory perception.
The conscience that derives from an experience of this type is called by the Buddhist “absolute consciousness” because it’s not based upon discrimination, abstractions, and classifications of the intellect, which are always relative and approximate. It is as the Buddhists say the direct experience of the absolute essence, undifferentiated, undivided, and indeterminate. (Read more…)
Category: Buddhism, Meditation, Personal Development, Religion, psychology
Writing by bwerner on Thursday, 31 of July , 2008 at 4:58 pm
There is a forgotten science to which I’ll allude that demonstrates that the universe is composed by also psychologically phenomenon.
The THEORY of APPEARANCE
The Psycho-Bio-Physic - Marco Todeschini, The Theory of Appearance
For those who love science in all its aspects, without prejudice and without dogmas, for who knows that there are and there have been scientists and theories that were banned only because the indicate non Orthodox ways to achieve conscience, to all these I would indicate the work of an Italian scientist unfortunately misunderstood also to professionals: Eng. Marco Todeschini (1899-1988).
Raised in the 50s-70s of the last century to chronicle of scientific honors for his work, founder of Psycho-bio-physic and editor of the theory of Appearance, with which he proposed, for the first time in the world a Global science that includes all physical phenomena, biological and psychological, this remarkable scientist, of origins from Bergamo, contemporary with the birth of the relativity of Einstein, refused he, like many others however, the axioms, finding, through its original research, the explanation of the phenomena of the universe without having to resort to abstruse concepts and without having to contradict the Galilean classical physics.
His work, after 30 years of research, studies and experiences, illustrates exhaustively the phenomena of the universe, able to get along but by its own original way, to the same laws and scientific formulas that shows them. The way followed by Todeschini is initiated at the time by the great Descartes, shelved then from Newton, namely that all the phenomena are caused by the movement of a cosmic substance that fills the entire universe and that was called ether.
In extreme synthesis the theory of Appearance was so named because all the phenomena that we perceive are nothing else than “appearances” generated by effects that arise in our psyche, from the movement of the cosmic fluid when it comes in contact with our senses. Appearances are therefore the sound, light, taste, smell, force, heat, electricity, etc… as they are nothing else than the mental elaboration of nervous stimuli arising from the encounter between the movement of the universal fluid (ether) of varying frequency and our organs of sense, which arrived to the brain, the seat of psyche, are transformed into the concerning feelings, while in reality they are nothing else than the silent waves of ether, dark, tasteless, odorless, athermic, different only in their frequency.
An extraordinary consequence of this theory is that if it is true that everything is generated by the movements of the cosmic ether even the cosmic matter and its fields of forces must be children of that. And in fact, Todeschini, demonstrates how everything can be originated from the atomic nucleus to the galaxies, by the movement of spherical vortices of that substance that swirling at superluminal speed around their centre create, by friction, the rotation of concentric layers thereafter, thus forming ultramicroscopic particles that constitutes the matter and that, according to their rotating direction, create the attraction or repulsive forces that mark them and are responsible of the forms of aggregation of the matter itself.
By deepening his studies understood he that to achieve a unified vision of creation he should also study the biological reality because intermediary in the understanding of the phenomena. With 10 psychophysical equations that generalize the law of inertia of Newton (F = ma), Todeschini shows correspondences between the deceleration of matter against the human body and the feelings that arise in the psyche revealing that all the feelings follow this law (Sn = ma).
The enormous importance of that lies in the fact that for the first time are to introduce in the exact sciences, in addition to the objective physical phenomena, the corresponding physiological and psychological subjective phenomena, so far neglected. He studied, therefore, the structure of the sensory organs of men making an electronic mapping through which he discovered their functioning that made him reach the conclusion that while the pass through of electric current stimulated by the sense organs of men through the nerves a objective physiological phenomenon is, is instead the corresponding feeling a subjective psychological phenomenon that arises from our “I”, when this current arrives at the authority of our brain.
All this has led to the development of scientific discoveries and inventions that in addition to confirm the theory have permitted to make useful devices such as artificial prosthesis, the pacemaker, the electric heart, appliances to restore sight to the blind and the hearing to the deaf, etc..
Striking was the invention of the “motor at centrifuge force” (patent 312496-1933) consisting of two masses that rotate independently and synchronously around their center and simultaneously around a common centre, in the way that the resulting centrifugal force can be oriented in a desired direction and effect. The engine is based upon the concept that the centripetal deceleration reaction of the masses lies in fluid space environment and that this reaction is identical with the driving centrifugal force. The functioning of the motor shows therefore
experimentally the fluidity of space. The device was also subject of a report to a ufological congress held in Germany in 1973 with which were proved that the engine could have the same characteristics and opportunity to those used for the propulsion of UFOs.
Nowadays a propulsion system of this type is called “non-Newtonian propulsion” and is subject to studies and research by many Italians and foreign scientists but practically none of them in their works alludes to their precursor Todeschini perhaps through ignorance or perhaps……
There are, however, currently, several cosmogonic and cosmological theories or simply alternative physics that revalue the ether as an irreplaceable element for to understand the phenomenon, in which their authors speak or make clear reference to the work of Todeschini citing his works and, others that despite of being absolutely similar in their concepts do not allude at all to him so as if everything was flour from theirs sack.
It’s symptomatic that this theory has been forgotten despite the sensation that aroused by its appearance and despite the fact that in times that are more recent the scientist has also been proposed to the Nobel Prize. The reasons for this cover-up, for those who know the work, however, are not hard to understand. Indeed in his works Todeschini openly declares his self as opponent to Einstein’s theories because they deny the existence of the ether and because the declare the speed of light as the highest attainable in the universe. In the theory of Appearance however, Todeschini demonstrates the groundlessness of these thoughts of Einstein and of course of all those who are attached to the caravan of science, the so-called official science, cannot pretend as nothing would matter.
Besides this, the theory of Todeschini demonstrates even the existence of spiritual forces for which we can imagine the reaction of the orthodox scientists, clearly positivists, faced with this assertion.
By reading, however, the latest scientific hypotheses, seems it that slowly science is somehow changing mind especially on the theory of Einstein and the Ether chased from the door, is returning from the window. Once again, it seems that nobody flavors Todeschini.
Here, the great grief that I would like to be shared by more people is precisely that that a personality worthy for the science and for the contribution that he gave, is not recalled and that his work is not divulged either as part of the history of science. I hope that this small tribute can be useful so that prepared people can reassess the work, even in a critically way, and the veil of oblivion may be removed and make return the light to the work of a scientist who humbly sought to advance science not to his advantage but for the benefit of all.
Taken from: www.nuovaricerca.org/tod_prologo.htm and www.mednat.og
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Category: Personal Development, Science, psychology
Writing by bwerner on Thursday, 24 of July , 2008 at 4:09 pm
It passed by some time since my last post and therefore I have a sense of guilt
PSYCHOLOGY - Defeating the sense of fault - The value of repair
We all make mistakes and we can all make errors. However, if it is true that in a real culture of tolerance errors can be repaired - in our daily reality - dominates the culture of an overwhelming sense of guilt. The sense of guilt comes from a rigid education, hard, blunt, and often hypocritically violent. The archetype of the wise Father, bearer of wisdom and sense of limit, is often far from our hearts and our thoughts.
However, in a world without fathers, violence can only grow without limit and the individuals tend to remain eternally adolescents, eternal Peter Pan, capricious and always looking for something that they not even know how to define. Therefore, we must learn to repair errors. The error is always human and not supernatural: when we commit an error – how serious ever – there were not violated any deity. The mistake should not be brought in celestial spheres of Judgment, but must remain on earth, concrete, real - albeit painfully - human and therefore forgivable. In this way, it - however difficult - is always an error to which you can repair.
This mechanism is of enormous value for the soul of people and in particular for children.
Being aware that our mistakes are repairable (through a gesture, a ritual, a job) allows any person who has committed it not to feel terribly guilty, because this would give rise to a spiral of guilt (the culprit unconsciously always tries to atone and in so doing he is likely to be again in circumstances where he commits more errors, remaining trapped in a vicious diabolical circle).
If our errors are in some way to repair, then we can grow in us the hope that the misdeed can be dissolved, that the fault is not an indelible stain that weighs during the course of our life consciences. Instead of being crushed by the condemnation of guilt we can:
1) take note of the error
2) can assume the responsibility to the bottom
3) we can stop imagine ourselves perfect
4) we can ask forgiveness and forgive ourselves
5) we can then repair and we can devise systems to dissolve the guilt and refuse to stifle forever in our hearts.
The repair is never the total cancellation of an error. The repair does not rewind the tape of life and cancel the error as if it had never been committed. Just as the error is human, even the repair is human and therefore imperfect. Taking up at the bottom of responsibility for our mistakes - in an adult and father manner - means being aware of the pain that our repairs will not be a total cancellation. The error should make us grow; we must mature and evolve through the pain of an imperfect repair, but at the same time, sincere and authentic. Where then we fail to get the repair, can we always get forgiveness.
With kindly permission www.mednat.org
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Fear to Live!
WHERE and WHY are BORN DISEASES?
Personality and what’s the Real You?
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Category: Personal Development, psychology
Writing by bwerner on Saturday, 12 of July , 2008 at 9:49 am
Here’s one more article, yes I know they’re long and are maybe heavy stuff, but there’s no other way to make you caught a glimpse on what we’re and what life is all about. If you want to know what does mean “personal development” you have to know the story from the beginning, to realize why it is important to aspire to a personal evolution and to align so with the whole evolutional process.
There is no Being; there’s only a Becoming!
Synthesis of Spiritual Medicine = Consciousness
The Universe is an immense Energetically and Cybernetic body, this means that it reflects, communicates, memorize, acts, exchanges information to and from every point of itself, therefore is it a Living Being equipped with its own Spirit that tends to make it increasingly complex and Perfect from and to each of its point, by meaning of the Movement and the Materially/Energetically/Spiritually transformation, consequently is it actually also a Psycho-Electro-Magnetic-Informed -Field, which then Informs itself and takes increasingly shape, manifesting continuously Spiritual/Matter which self organizes into new matter that generates Spirit/Thought (it informs itself) in a closed infinite loop.
It is therefore Syntropical apparently Entropic; It’s NON Infinite(Universe), but is in fact the concrete manifestation of the spiritual-matter of the INFINITY, that what has no limit, and this Being, the Universe, tends as everything that is created, to the Infinite, of which it is one of the possible infinitely visible manifestations; It is the manifestation of a state of “consciousness tending to the INFINITE”, which evidences by meaning of the Information(In-Form-Action), the Light, or the Thinking/Energy, that by meaning of all its stats (plasma, liquid, solid, gaseous), transforms into Energy/Matter/Information (In-Form-Action), at atomic, molecular, (inorganic and organic)level, up to the Living Beings, Plants, Animals, Humans and beyond, realizing, and manifesting in their creations, increasingly organized and complex, through the accumulation of information, the elaboration of it, the Thought and then the state of a consciousness of “I AM, I was and I will be”, not only in the individual parties but also throughout the Universe, accumulating information, they become (the tending infinite points/agencies/entities) increasingly Intelligent to re-comprehend on other levels of Conscience the Infinity (Father/Mother), creating other Spirit (Thought) to make it more and more consciously of itself and the others (other Space/Time) to can fill and create more and more with other and new manifestations of matter/thought-spirit, the Universe itself, making it therefore exist and expand tendentially to Infinity.
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Category: Personal Development, Religion, Science, psychology
Writing by bwerner on Wednesday, 9 of July , 2008 at 8:04 pm
Your psychic identity is how you express your psychic blueprint consciously in a multi-dimensional universe. Your psychic identity is how your senses all merge together to create a particular individual psychic way of expressing yourself, a particular psychic way of making your presence felt in the multi-dimensional universe.
Through your psychic identity you access all those multi-level realms of communication in your subconscious. All the levels of communication within you at a psychic level come together in a unique sensory way. Your senses access who you are through your psychic identity. Through the medium of your psychic identity your senses express who you are. And it’s different for everyone.
Some people have a stronger sensory sense of smell; other people rely more on a sense of touch to give them a psychic feel of what’s happening. And how you combine your different sensory inputs at a communication level is how you identify yourself psychically in the multi-dimensional universe. So
if you have a psychic identity that relies more on your sense of listening, your audio sense, then you will
communicate psychically differently in the universe, you’ll communicate psychically differently with other people on an everyday level.
Your psychic identity isn’t just about how you communicate in this abstract multi-dimensional universe, as if it’s something ‘out there’, separate from your everyday life. Your psychic identity is how you express yourself in every way in every day of your life.
You’re using your psychic identity all the time to reach out to others in your own special sensory way, accessing knowledge from others, interacting with others. Listening and hearing between the words comes more easily to some than others. It’s all part of their special psychic identity. For others it’s intuitively reading between the lines that comes a lot more easily - which is all part of their psychic identity.
Learning about your psychic identity means learning about your senses; learning how your senses operate, learning how your senses operate especially for you. And this can be very, very exciting - it’s a wonderful talent that we all have to sense our way through our day, to sense our way through our lives, to sense our way through our relationships.
Your psychic identity operates in everything you do, in every way you interact with others. The more consciously you can use your psychic identity, use your particular way of interacting with others at an intuitive psychic level, then you will become a much more powerful and influential person than what you are now. People who influence others are people who actually are more in touch with their psychic identity.
Reaching out to others at more intuitive and different levels of communication comes more easily to people who are in touch with their psychic identity. People like this are confident that they can read between the lines or hear things differently, and that they do sense things differently. They stand out in the crowd, knowing that they have a psychic identity, and that they can use it.
Training your senses, practising your senses in a way that increases your psychic ability, confirms and increases your psychic identity in how you interact. Learning about your psychic identity is very important, because as you learn about your psychic identity, you become a more integrated person. The secret is to go on the journey of learning about your intuitive and psychic ability, and then to realise that this is going to put you in touch with your psychic senses, which creates your psychic identity.
How simple it is. You can be more consciously aware of what you are doing already, be more aware of how you already intuitively naturally interact with others, and the reason being that we are using our psychic identity all the time, even at times when we are not aware that we are doing so. Just because we are not conscious that we have a psychic identity, it does not mean we are not still using it to express ourselves in our interactions with others.
In the best interests of ourselves, in following our destiny in the best possible way, relating to others in the best possible way, and also in how we form relationships in the best possible way, we are wise to know our psychic identity.
by Gaye Wright
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What is self esteem?
The biggest fear is fear itself
Synthesis of Spiritual Medicine = Consciousness
Definition of Consciousness
Category: Personal Development, Science, psychology
Writing by bwerner on Friday, 4 of July , 2008 at 11:53 am
The aspiration of modern men is to reconcile the antithetical aspects of his personality: he is in the body like an animal, but at the level of the Ego would he like to be similar to a deity. The fate of an animal is the death, which the Ego tries to avoid nourishing divine aspirations. Nevertheless, in trying to avoid their fate men creates a worse: living with the fear of live.
We want love, but we fear to be vulnerable. We want to open ourselves, but we fear the rejection. We want deep feelings, but we fear to be crushed by emotions.
Conditioned to seek success in social terms rather than human success, we give us to a frenetic activity. From this conflict comes a tremendous despair, because beneath the surface of our convulsive life there is constantly the presence of pain.
To free ourselves from those debilitating fears and replace the “being” with the “to do” is proposed a combination of work on the body and analysis of character that brings to light and resolves the deep sources of the sense of guilt and anger. Instead of changing the self, a bio-energetic therapy seeks to establish a harmony between the exterior and interior world with auto-acceptation, the mastery of self and the auto-expression. The result will be a much more fully life, happier and healthier. (Meditation and Yoga)
Saying that the auto-acceptation determines a change of the own destiny may seem a contradiction, but it is not. When you stop fighting against the fate, you get the rid of the neurosis (inner conflict) and you reach serenity. The result is a different attitude (one is not afraid to live) expressed by a different character and joined to a different fate. In this way, the individual will have the courage to live and die, and be able to auto-realization.
In our culture, we give importance to action, to the accomplished act. The modern individual is required to be successful, not to “being a person”. He belongs to an “active generation” whose motto is “to do more”, but feel less. This attitude characterizes much of modern sexuality: more action but less passion.
Is it the destiny of modern men to be neurotic, being afraid of life? My answer is yes, if we consider modern man belonging to a culture whose values are the dominant power and progress. Since these values characterizes the Western civilization in the twentieth century, results that every person who lives in this civilization is neurotic.
The neurotic individual is in conflict with himself. A portion of him attempts to dominate the other. His Ego tries to subjugate the body, and his rational thought to control the emotions, his will tries to overcome fears and anxieties. Although this conflict is unconscious, its effect is to exhaust the energies of a person and to destroy the peace of mind.
The neurosis is an internal conflict. The neurotic character takes different forms, but all involve a struggle within the individual between what is and what it believes to be. All neurotics are involved in this fight.
Our goals are the power and progress, but we want the pleasure, peace and stability. We do not realize that personal power and pleasure are opposing values and that often the first makes the second impossible. Power inevitably leads to a fight that often opposes the father to the son, the brother to the brother. It’s a separator force in a community. Progress requires a constant activity to transform the old into new, with the conviction that the new is always superior to the old. Although this may be true in some technical areas, this is a dangerous belief. Generalizing, this implies that the son is superior to the father or that tradition is simply the dead weight of the past. There are cultures in which dominate other values, where respect for the past and tradition is more important than the desire for change. In these cultures the conflict is minimized and neurosis rare.
The cultural process that gave rise to modern society and modern men has been the development of the Ego. This development is associated to the acquisition of knowledge and the conquest of the power over nature. Men belong to nature as any other animal and are fully subject to its laws, but he is also on the top of nature, because he is acting on it and controls it.
Men behave in the same way with his intimate nature, a part of his personality, the Ego, rebels to the animal part, the body. The antithesis between Ego and body produces a dynamic tension that promotes the process of culture, but it also contains a potential for destruction. When the separation between Ego and body is such that there is no more contact, the result is the psychotic collapse: I believe that in our culture we have reached this dangerous moment.
Human life is full of contradictions, and to recognize and accept them is a test of wisdom.
Saying that the acceptance of the own fate determines a change may seem a contradiction, but it is not.
When you stop to fight against destiny, you get the rid of neurosis (internal conflict) and you reach serenity. The result is a different attitude (no more fear to live) expressed by a different character coupled with a different fate.
Therefore, it becomes necessary to look inside ourselves to understand our most intimate feelings and aspirations, because only this can lead us to a personal clarification that shows us that what really makes the wellbeing in our existence, which frees us from the slavery of the internal conflict and collective neurosis. In this way, it leads us to peace and in the end to happiness.
The best way to practice such is the meditation what allows us to see with calm our most intimate feelings, doing it with a background of meditative music eases and ensures an easy progress and achievement of our self-realization.
Psychic Identity
What is self esteem?
The biggest fear is fear itself
Synthesis of Spiritual Medicine = Consciousness
Definition of Consciousness
Category: Meditation, Personal Development, psychology
Writing by bwerner on Monday, 30 of June , 2008 at 6:42 pm
According to the Freudian psychoanalytic theory, the conscious, better known as Ego, is the superior mental substrate that is that what let us have awareness of ourselves and of our relationship with the surrounding environment.
To understand better what is said we must relate the conscious to the unconscious, that is its more hidden counterpart, which is located in the enteric brain or the below brain, in the intestines; everything we know and remember with consciousness is domain of the conscience, while any removed experiences are relegated to the unconscious, where they still remain active.
The theme was deepened by Kant with his concept “I think” and by Schopenhauer, to which Freud relates very.
Many believe that they are well separated two shares of the brain, instead NO: the conscious is the one that works more when we are awake, that rational, what decides, the unconscious works also and above all when sleeping.
We can define the conscious as that part of ourselves that is aware of itself and the world (the conscious mind).
The consciousness has the function to monitor the voluntary motor activity.
The unconscious is all that of which we are not aware rationally in a given time (breath, heartbeat, hormones, glands, attitudes, emotions, etc.) and that inevitably leads us to make certain experiences that are helpful of any kind.
The conscious mind continually provides opinions on what is possible to think-do and about what is not, rather than simply to try some behavior that makes it possible to discover whether it is or is not possible. The conscious mind, with its limited system of belief, is much less willing to try than it is the unconscious.
Most of our psychic-physical functioning, is determined from the unconscious, that means, occurs at a level of a natural chain of events that works very well without the intervention of our conscious part.
We live more ‘guided from the unconscious then the conscious therefore ids it the belly that guides us!
Bandler and Grinder affirm: “The conscious mind gives continually reviews on what is possible and what is not, rather than simply try to search for some behavior that makes it possible to find out whether it is or is not possible. The conscious mind, with its limited system of belief, is much less willing to try than it is the unconscious. Typically, the unconscious has no such restrictions. The unconscious mind, provided they are organized and educated in an appropriate manner, is willing to try anything. If you are in your study and a person says, <<I cannot do this and I want to do it>> a useful hypothesis is that this person has already done everything he is able to try to make that change with his resources he disposes consciously and has completely failed.
One way to avoid to combat with someone or to obtain a resistance is simply to eliminate the conscious mind. ” Milton Erickson said in Sydney Rosen: “What we will not make Sid account, is that most of your life is determined from the unconscious.”
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Category: Health, Meditation, Personal Development, Science
Writing by bwerner on Thursday, 26 of June , 2008 at 6:56 pm
Belief isn’t an idea the mind possesses…
It’s an idea that possesses the mind.
What and who is DEVIL or SATAN?
The word “devil” derives from the Latin word “diabolus” which means “the calumniator” and from the Greek etymon “dia-bolein” which means, “to launch through to separate”, that is acting to divide without having first known and penetrated the other concept.
From Sanskrit, the ancient Phoenician and antic Hebraic, we have another word “shatan” which means “the adversary or enemy.” Since ever the latter word “shatan”, was from the “religious” united solely for the concept that it could be the name of that entity that absolutely embodies the “evil”.
From ancient Phoenician, can we see how this word derives from the root STN: Schin + Tet +Nun, analyzing: Schin has the function of Transferring from an idea to another, the passing from one unit to a side of the “opposite” of this unit, the two letters Schin and Tet indicate that what tends to obscurity, to depth, to not to see, not to understand, going towards involution, to no knowledge (ignorance), closing up on one selves for not being penetrated by Knowledge, to hide from the truth; to divide what is united and make it appear as “divided”; to remove from the own unitary essence.
The letters Tet and Nun indicate that Men gets transformed by what generates ideas of opposition, of division, from that what contrasts, which generates resistance, to the truth and reject the truth, a being weak and powerless that let’s go himself, who abandons, who hides in front of the truth so as not to see, not to understand, this is the definition of the half men.
As we have seen the word “Satan” or “devil”, are existential conditions, ways of thinking, seeing, to live from ONLY ONE SIDE the TRUTH = living by dividing that what in reality is united, be possessed by the demon is to have mentally schemes that prevent to see and understand that what we must strive to unite the apparently contrary for the search of the truth, because the subject removes from himself the true conscience; others call such mental schemes “engram”; other “mental blocks”; in reality are these parts of the Ego/Self that “reunites” in the Mind (remember that this word comes from the root of the word “Lie” (in Italian “Mente=mind/Mentire=lie”), namely the Mind easily lies) to perform a filter pattern (vicious circle) to all situations experienced, everything is passed by this filter that if satanic or diabolic, distorts the vision of reality.
You cannot reach God if not through the conscience, therefore we support that God is an existential condition, a way of Being, to live the Unity of the Finalities, if we see God in others and in ourselves, we will live this Divinity.
So anyway, one cannot “reach Satan” if not through the conscience, so we support that the “devil” is an existential condition, a way of being (one who does not know and who does not want to know, probably because he “thinks” that he already have all the Knowledge = Egocentricity); if we DO NOT see the Divinity in us or in the others and not tend to live it in us and the others, then we are ourselves “Satan”.
God is the Infinite that manifests in the infinite Universe that materializes into throughout the Matter, informing itself increasingly that is the evolution towards and in CONSCIENCENOUSS; Satan is NOT to won’t go to the Conscience, to stop by for fear of Knowing or for presumption.
The identification and correlation of darkness, tenebrous = evil, is known to all; Men tends easily to connect for ignorance, evil, to what he does not know or for which he “feels” emotionally that it generates discomfort; the Unknown, the darkness, the “different” event, until things are seen or experienced as a demon to fight (e.g. racism), will he always produce fear and aggression, in fact many times men demonize and discharged it for example on his fellow or the demoniac, the possessed, believing that the “strange”, the otherwise, is to be destroyed, not to understand or to give explanation with reason and the intuit. If instead evil and good are seen or experienced as a moment of Conscience, to penetrate to understand, to listen to the emotional feelings that they exercise onto the Ego/Self, ranging however to be analyzed by reason and logic, then here is that suddenly the demon becomes a “Angel of Light”, in Information, in Knowledge and Joy.
The fears are always the daughter of ignorance, the non-conscience, it’s diabolical, in fact evil is ignorance, the non-knowledge. Therefore, devil or Satan is to be in a position to not Know.
It’s all evidence that the one who says to his neighbor: “You are possessed by Satan or the devil,” did not understand these concepts, he is one that is divided, not united and divided the other from his Self.
We could continue with these correlations and redefinition of these terms of language, but we want only to provide to the readers, the ways to recover the definitions.
These analyses could also be made for all the “sacred” writings of all ancient religions of the world, but the result would however always be identical to these summaries expressed previously.
We can define the word “devil” even so: “That “something” or that “idea” that has perception only of parts of himself and which is divided non-harmonized, not in resonance, not in participation with other Points or Entities of his Self, namely of the Universe and the Infinity.”
When an individual is not in tune with the Laws of Manifestation, he “embodies” Satan, he expresses himself as the enemy, the one that divides, the one who destroys, at the instant of the “transgression” his mind/organ, which is activator and emanatory of the field of Psycho Informed Energy (CEI) see: Psychic Electronic Men), generates immediately a program of death, self destruction, slow but continuous and depending on the type of transgression the speed of this “procedure” of mental program varies.
The variation of the bodily CEI, is the mismanagement of the “sockets” of the Psycho Electro Magnetic Informed Field of the UniVerse (CEIU), therefore is there no more Vitale energy that fuels the body CEI and therefore it must live from its own energy that little by little, depending on the type of transgression, loses strength and is therefore destined to destroy the created hologram (the Mental and physical body), in order to create a new one that understand better the order of the universe pursued from the Ego/I am.
Remember that the Spirit/Mind/Body is a system Psycho Informatics /Energetically Unit.
The “abnormal” Frequencies that set up in the CEI and then in the mind/organ, namely the programs of self-destruction, the transformation of the hologram (the body) are the so-called “demonic possessions.” They tend to parasitize the CEI, as the bacteria in certain situations Thermal / Nutritional disequilibrium tend to colonize the physical body or part of it, making it sick or even killing it.
They, these “spurious frequencies”, may also move quite easily from one field to another, if the individual “modulating/receiving” leaves them enter, but however they are always present in the Manifestation and serve to it in its continuous activities of transformation.
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What is self esteem?
Synthesis of Spiritual Medicine = Consciousness
Psychic Identity
Fear to Live!
Get through the Illusion of Limitation
Category: Personal Development, Religion
Writing by bwerner on Saturday, 21 of June , 2008 at 6:55 pm
We all know him, we all talk about him, some believe in him, some are atheists and neglect him, but for all of us is he the expression of several fundamental facts about our own existence and life generally. Above that gives he to us a treasure of instructions regarding our self-actualization and personal development from a psychologically point of view wherein his human embodying is nothing else then the key of lecture to our very own existence.
WHO ‘and WHAT’ is the CHRIST?
We want analyze the “Sacred” names; classically it’s the meaning of the most important name of Christianity:
Jesus - Christ, Christos (from Greek: the anointed, the gleaming, the sacred), in reality this name derives from the Greek and the union of 2 concepts: the first is CHRYSOS = this word comes from transmutation in the various languages:
1) Orus son of Osiris (Egyptian name of a “god, concept, force”), Chrosus and Chrysos what even in Greek means Gold which generated the words Crux (Latin), Cruz (Spanish), Cross (English), Croix (French), Kreuz (German), Croce (Italian) and Greek Cross (symbol of light)
2) to this word, Chrys-Os, was introduced the Cross or TAU (the letter T) Egyptian, Phoenician and Hebrew sign of death, resurrection and of the solar luminous cross and of the musical scale (sol +la + re); in the same name there is also an abbreviation for sun (SOle, eliOS, (Helios) or “divinity, always the idea” of light, fire and it is also the prefix of Osiris.
The ChristOs in the Mythology (MitoLogia) etymology (eTimoLogia) of Christians is in fact nailed to the Cross of Wood and all the pictographically representations confirm him in the two states, suffering and dying on the cross and rose into the Light.
Indeed, the ChristOs is the Cross or Solar Light of the pagans, says in fact also the gospel that transfigured on the mountain with Moses and Elijah, he is also called Lamb, a word which derives from Indian “Agni” the god/ man bearer of the “Fire”, messenger of the divinity, destined to die and also called “lord of the dead.”
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Category: Buddhism, Meditation, Personal Development, Religion
Writing by bwerner on Sunday, 15 of June , 2008 at 4:49 pm
How to Apply Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs to Your Life
He studied self-accepting, self-aware, spontaneous people (like Abe Lincoln) who knew how to be happy. Here’s how to apply Maslow’s hierarchy of needs to everyday life.
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is also known as Maslow’s motivation theory. His hierarchy of needs is about how to be happy and self-actualized. Once you move past the basic needs, you need to find your calling (Maslow’s self-actualization). Self-actualization involves self-acceptance, self-awareness, unconditional positive regard, and a host of other wonderful positive qualities!
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs includes everything from chocolate to fear of intimacy.
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
Maslow’s hierarchy looks like the Food Pyramid for Healthy Eating, but it’s based on survival and growth, not food and nutrition (though the concepts are very similar). In this description below, #1 (Physiological needs) is the broad base of the pyramid. Self actualization (#5) is the pinnacle.
Physiological needs: air, water, food, sleep, sex, excretion.
Safety needs: secure country, community, job, family, health, resources.
Love/belonging needs: family, friendship, sexual intimacy
Esteem needs: confidence, achievement, respect of others, respect by others.
Self-actualization: creativity, spontaneity, problem-solving, acceptance of reality, lack of prejudice.
Self-actualization
Maslow studied successful, productive, and wealthy people – who had found their callings – to determine how people fulfill their potential. Abe Lincoln, Thomas Jefferson, Eleanor Roosevelt, and Albert Einstein were some of his “lab rats”.
Self-actualized people share certain characteristics:
Spontaneous in taking action and making decisions
Interested in solving problems
Creative in work, family, social, and recreational pursuits
Close with other people – strong support network (but not a vast one)
Strong morality system
Objective perspective, without prejudice
Focused energy on one particular task: their calling or mission in life
Figuring out who you are are is closely tied to self-actualization and growth.
To become self-actualized
Carl Rogers agreed with Maslow. His beliefs that people are basically good and able to self-actualize led him to postulate that there are three conditions that promote growth.
Genuineness.
You’ve achieved self-actualization if you can be open with your thoughts and feelings – if your external behavior matches your internal thoughts – if you can drop the façade and be transparent, then you’re on the road to actualization and growth. Being honest and real encourages others to be genuine as well.
Acceptance.
Unconditional positive regard has been described as an “attitude of grace”. When you offer it, you love someone without judging their actions, thoughts, or feelings. You’re self-actualized when you value people even as you know their failings and dark sides. Nurturing acceptance and unconditional positive regard toward your own self is key to a happy, peaceful and fulfilled life.
Empathy.
You recognize and can relate to another’s emotions and experiences. You reflect their feelings and meanings nonjudgmentally; you can put yourself in another’s shoes and feel what they’re feeling. Self-actualization involves being empathetic.
According to Rogers, these three conditions are ideal for self-actualization. Nurturing genuineness, acceptance, and empathy can help you – and the people around you – find your true calling and fulfill your potential in life.
© Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen TheAdventurousWriter.com
Should you be interested in Books from Abraham Maslow see Toward a Psychology of Being from Amazon.
What is self esteem?
Synthesis of Spiritual Medicine = Consciousness
Psychic Identity
Fear to Live!
What and who is DEVIL or SATAN?
Category: Personal Development, Science
Writing by bwerner on Tuesday, 10 of June , 2008 at 3:51 pm
Here’s a real grotesque paradox of the way through our real life: the more we get aware by what limits us, the more limitless gets our reality!
Therefore, take time to translate the undermentioned special examples; it throws much required
illumination upon a certain darkness that stands between us, and the more high-level freedom for which we yearn.
The sole aim of pessimistic feelings is to keep your thoughts on what you can’t arrange. And with
your sentence immobile in its manner — about what appears impracticable — there’s no way for disclosing what is accomplishable — and for what you are able to do.
Differently set, the only matter pessimistic states do is to maintain you engaged doing nothing excepted the experience of unhappiness or discomfort about yourself…that establishes a perfect guarantee for that your position will persist hopelessly unvaried.
You don’t have to bear one more demoralizing minutes with that let go a life sentence confined by its darkness.
There’s a different attitude you are able to attain instead of falling under those well-known feelings of embodying a “failure.”
The next few brainstorms will empower you to begin thinking of old discouragements in afresh way.
Whenever you affirm over what you aren’t capable to get along, create, or run through, where is your attention in these moments?
It’s centered on your own thought-produced reality that’s narrating you’re stuck!
Perhaps you will be able to acknowledge some of these heavy-hearted inner articulations that go with being victimized by such depressing thoughts.
In one way or another, they say…
“I’ll never come out of this mess.”
“It’s too late!”
“I’m too set in my ways to change.”
“This is hopeless.”
Now on the surface of such personal matters, these all-too-familiar whispers of frustration — that talk to you with your personal voice — appear authentically concerned about your undesired condition.
Nevertheless, a more in depth look states a much more counterpointing story.
These harassed cerebrations are part of an unseeable “conspiracy of limitation” taking place in your own consciousness!
Watch over the next four considerations to their astonishing conclusion.
They demonstrate that self-illumination and self-liberation are one and the same power.
1. The more these gloomy voices babble to us, the more irresolute we feel.
2. The more discouraged we feel, the more certain we are there’s no other alternative but to feel that way.
3. The more convinced we are that we have no alternative, the less choice we have.
4. The behave of identifying with this darkish inner dialogue actually develops the dead-end we fear!
And so it goes: at once we’re convinced of our own incarceration!
There’s no way to elapse the restrictions we perceive as being real.
The key idea here dwells in the word perceive because it rhymes with deceive.
That’s just what these perceptions are: a secret deception.
Here’s the emancipating proof.
There are no deadlocks in real life.
Of course, you must demonstrate this promising reality to yourself, and here’s a good point to start: in any given moment there’s always something more to do with your life than sit there and suffer over what you believe you can’t have, do, or be.
Why wallow this way when a small amount of interior work will forever change how you see reality?
For instance, realize that the “size” of your dismay is directly in proportion to how strongly you assert life conform to your demands.
Asserting this self-imposed restriction empowers you, straightaway, to let it go and start all over.
Here’s a different example: possibly, you have felt pessimistic because you needed to study something new — a higher accomplishment or a hard lesson — but felt for sure that certain limitations of yours ranked this possibility beyond your abilities.
Now you can do something much more advanced than just resign yourself to feeling discouraged.
Instead of falling into those long-familiar impressions of futility over yourself, deliberately drop those
discourage-filled cerebrations stating you the limit of your present view is the demarcation line of your possibilities.
Who you have embodied matters only to those depressing states that wish you to persist that way so that they can preserve to govern the day.
Declining to dwell in the cosmos of discouraged sentiments and opinions is the same as opening up the
doorway to a new universe without limits. Just start working with who you are at present!
In other words, manage what’s in your power and decline to be pessimistic about anything else. Keep taking over this new behavior one step at one time until you’ve walked off from the livelong false thought that there’s no further you can go!
Here are three special cardinal morals to help you fortify and then realize your wish to experience a world without limits:
Any conversation you allow yourself to sustain with discouraging and demoralizing thoughts assures you’ll end up with a good reason for feeling pessimistic.
When you acknowledge that what you’re seeking is what you already are — and not what you might become — you stand on the threshold of the unlimited life.
The universe itself is in reality set up for you to succeed with actualizing the illimitable life, which implies you are made for whatever takes place to you!
If you start to look inside yourself you’ll discover all the above by meditating
What is self esteem?
Finding Your Identity
Synthesis of Spiritual Medicine = Consciousness
Psychic Identity
Fear to Live!
Category: Buddhism, Meditation, Personal Development
Writing by bwerner on Monday, 9 of June , 2008 at 3:44 pm
How to Let Self Discovery and Authenticity Overcome Your Fears
Here’s how to find your identity. Self discovery and authentic living will help you achieve your goals in life and be true to yourself.
Finding your identity, self discovery, and figuring out who you are all ways to say “authentic living.” Finding your identity is a task most adults face because our true selves were squeezed out of us as kids. We had to conform or face the consequences…….so we conformed, and we lost our selves in the process.
Authentic living is expressing your true thoughts, feelings, and opinions without condemning or judging - and it’s one of the most difficult things you’ll ever do. Self discovery comes first, and being true to yourself comes right after.
The journy to self identity is full of failures and successes. Finding your identity is a process with no real end point. You’ll never finish the journey to self discovery because you’re always growing and changing.
Why is finding your identity or living authentically difficult?
Finding your identity is difficult because you got hurt. You’ve been betrayed, terrified, and even abused. Assaults on your self are difficult to survive when they’re committed by strangers. When people who “love” you hurt you, it’s even harder to bounce back. Finding your identity involves squaring with your past and forgiving others.
Finding your identity is difficult because you hurt others. Let’s face it: you’ve betrayed friends, partners, family; maybe you’ve even terrified and abused them. We all have. These cycles of pain and destruction make it difficult to open up and trust again – you know how falliable humans are. Finding your identity and the journey to self discovery is about facing your mistakes.
Finding your identity is difficult because you watch the media and see images of perfection, which doesn’t encourage you to be your unique imperfect self. The gorgeous models, rock singers and movie stars look flawless. Finding your identity means knowing these images of perfection are impossible to live up to. Finding your identity means letting the quest for perfection go. Authentic living is never perfect. If you’re striving for perfection, you may never achieve your goals in life.
Finding your identity is difficult because you haven’t let go of expectations of your parents, family, supervisors, professors, mentors, etc.. You’re encouraged to color between the lines, fit in, and be “big a girl/boy” - but you’re not always encouraged to find your identity. Then, when you’re an adult you’re expected to be politically correct, mature, and responsible. Finding your identity means letting go of others’ expectations. Authentic living is letting go of expectations.
Finding your identity is a lifelong journey of self discovery.
Questions to ponder when you’re finding your identity:
- What makes your heart leap or your soul resonate?
- When do you feel most happy and relaxed? Finding your identity is knowing what makes you “you.”
- What’s the first thought or feeling that pops into your head when you encounter a song, person, memory, or experience? Finding your identity involves being self-aware.
- What’s the THIRD thought or feeling when you encounter a song, person, memory, or situation? (some say that’s your true self – it may depend on how buried your true self is).
Finding your identity involves negative feelings:
- When – and with whom – do you feel depressed, sad, or drained? Finding your identity involves avoiding those situations.
- When do you feel physically ill or unhealthy? Authentic living means figuring that out, and avoiding those situations.
- What meetings, visits, or events do you find yourself dragging yourself to? Finding your identity is about limiting or eliminating those circumstances.
By Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen TheAdventurousWriter.com
What is self esteem?
Get through the Illusion of Limitation
Synthesis of Spiritual Medicine = Consciousness
Psychic Identity
Fear to Live!
Category: Buddhism, Personal Development
Writing by bwerner on Wednesday, 4 of June , 2008 at 8:33 am
What is this illusive thing that people go looking for called Spirituality? Spirit is 1/3 of the individualized entity; the body or ego that we know ourselves as being alive. By our very nature we are already spiritual and everything that we do is spiritual; we do not have to go looking for it.
Many people spend a lifetime looking for spirituality and they never find it; you cannot find what is not lost or already is. What they are really looking for is spiritual awareness, an awareness of that which gives us life and mobility; an awareness of self.
Many people confuse religion for spirituality, but religion is man’s attempt to explain spirituality and is a part of being spiritual as all things are. You will hear people say, “This or that person is very spiritual” but that is not really accurate. There are people who are more spiritually aware than others. But you are also spiritual, so there is no need to feel left out or less spiritual. Your spirituality can be developed consciously as awareness, but your spirit is already complete as is.
You will not find your spirituality in Tibet or high on the mountain or in the hut of some spiritual guru. There is no place to look for it, because you are already there. The awareness of spirituality comes with the desire to be spiritually aware. Once you have decided that it is what you want, the opportunities will come to you automatically. The people who will best serve you will be drawn to you, and you will begin to notice them. You will begin to notice subtle changes in your environment and your life’s circumstances.
You more than likely will begin to move away from your current friends and even relationships as they no longer serve your purpose. As cold as that may seem, it is because you have begun to learn a new language and they can no longer understand or relate to you. Many will try and discourage you because they don’t want to be left behind. As you begin to develop this other part of self, you will start to notice things around you that eluded you before. Your senses will become more acute, you will begin to care more about your body and your health. You will understand and have great empathy for how your ego struggles to survive in what sometimes seems to be a harsh world. You will also draw like minded people to you, to replace the ones left behind who are there to support you in your creations.
Your newly developed spirituality will open doors you never knew existed. It will be as though you have discovered a whole new set of tools you never knew you had. Your life will have new meaning and you will no longer feel like a victim, but as a creator of your own circumstances and destiny. You will begin to see your intimate connection to all others and all things. Your newly found awareness does not excuse you from your physical journey but it does give it new meaning. You will never be the same, nor will you want to go back.
You will not only use your five senses more completely but you will begin to discover or maybe even develop your other psychic senses. Can you image adding on five or more senses to the ones you are already aware of and using? The possibilities for new experiences are infinite as you now begin to see yourself differently. You will also develop the ability to remove yourself from your body and view yourself from a distance as the silent observer of your own life; silent, patient and empathetic - your very own spiritual guide. You will begin to truly understand, appreciate and embrace the term “outside the box” because that is where your attention and experience will be.
I can’t image a greater sense of security in knowing that you can never be judged spiritually, never be punished and that you have absolute unconditional freedom to do anything you can imagine and that it is you only purpose. Judgment and punishment are physical attributes of this life that you will not experience in the afterlife. Unconditional love and freedom is what you are spiritually and it has no limitations. The essence of who you are individually will always be, and cannot be destroyed. It is also the nature of all things to move to a higher state of being; to improve one’s experience.
Your new spiritual awareness begins when you decide it does, and because you are reading this now; it has already started. Remember also that spiritual awareness is not an end unto itself; it is the trip that brings the greatest rewards and pleasures.
All thoughts are valid in the spiritual world, read as much as you can from many different writers and authors. Never allow yourself to be boxed in by someone else’s thoughts or even your own. As you reach out you will begin to formulate a thought process that is uniquely yours and changes.
Author: Roy Klienwachter http://www.klienwachter.com
What is self esteem?
Synthesis of Spiritual Medicine = Consciousness
Psychic Identity
Fear to Live!
What and who is DEVIL or SATAN?
Category: Buddhism, Meditation, Personal Development, Yoga
Writing by bwerner on Monday, 2 of June , 2008 at 7:20 pm
5 Ways to Tickle Your Funny Bone Group Giggling
Making time to laugh and play can boost your health. Experts say that laughter increases endorphins, strengthens your immune system, and sends extra oxygen coursing through your veins. Find out why some researchers believe laughing is as good as a mild workout.
Burns Calories
Laughing for 10 to 15 minutes raises energy expenditure, increases heart rate, and can burn up to 40 calories. However, it’s not a weight-loss method. “People can’t eat at McDonald’s and then expect to laugh away their lunch,” says Dr. Maciej Buchowski, a professor of medicine at Vanderbilt University. Even so, a few calories every day translates to a few pounds a year—so keep those laughs coming!
Causes “Runner’s High”
Laughing increases positive endorphins, reduces stress and strengthens the immune system. Even just anticipating something funny increases anti-viral, anti-tumour defences, reports Dr. Lee Berk of the School of Medicine at Loma Linda University. The benefits of humour can last up to 24 hours—this may be why we say “laughter is the best medicine.”
Increases Job Satisfaction
Humour improves communication, creativity and overall performance in the workplace, says Dr. Chris Robert. He’s a psychology professor and researcher at the University of Missouri-Columbia who studied how laughter affects employees. He says, “The ability to appreciate humour, the ability to laugh and make other people laugh, actually has physiological effects on the body that cause people to become more bonded.”
Increases Hope and Self-Worth
Watching just 15 minutes of a comedy show can alleviate worries about health or career. Texas A&M psychiatrist David H. Rosen found that a chuckle can replace negative thoughts with positive ones and help formulate a “plan of attack” for problems. This in turn increases feelings of self-worth, which makes overcoming obstacles even easier.
Protects Against Heart Disease
“Research suggests that a good sense of humour wards off heart attacks,” says psychologist Steve Wilson. “Laughter dilates blood vessels so blood flows more freely. Humour was a significant positive addition to standard cardiac rehabilitation.” Dr. Michael Miller, director of the Centre for Preventative Cardiology at the University of Maryland Medical Centre reports that laughing reduces the fat and cholesterol build-up in the coronary arteries. He says, “The old saying that ‘laughter is the best medicine’ definitely appears to be true when it comes to protecting your heart.”
Eliminates “Us Versus Them” Thinking
Comedy makes us more inclusive of others and helps us see the big picture. Happiness and humour reduces narrow-minded perspectives, says University of Michigan psychology researcher Kareem Johnson. Laughing can slash bias and bring people together, which strengthens our work, home, and school relationships.
Improves Counseling Sessions
Therapists who laugh with their clients increase feelings of connection and bonding, reports Dr. Carl Marci, the director of Social Neuroscience at Massachusetts General Hospital. Psychologist Steve Wilson adds, “Laughter is thought to be one of the earliest ways that humans signalled support and ‘it is safe to relax here.’ Good-natured shared laughter between counsellor and client can foster trust, rapport and reduced defensiveness.”
Helps Kids Tolerate Pain
Cartoons can help children cope with painful procedures, such as needles or visits to the dentist. In October 2007, Dr. Margaret Stuber from the University of California’s Jonsson Comprehensive Cancer Centre found humour helped kids tolerate pain longer. In her study, the young patients who watched funny movies still felt the pain of a standardized pain test (in this case, dipping their hands into icy cold water), but they could endure it better because they were distracted.
Improves Classroom Interactions
Research shows that humour facilitates student discussions and increases course enjoyment. Mark Shatz, a psychology professor at Ohio University, found that top ten lists, jokes, and cartoons—all related to the course material—increased academic performance and students’ level of participation. “They expect us [teachers] to be boring and dull. We don’t have to be funny, but the attempt tells students that we’re trying to make the course more interesting.”
Strengthens the Immune System
“Stress hormones are reduced during laughter, allowing the immune cells to function better,” says psychologist Steve Wilson. “Laughing also promotes an oxygen/carbon dioxide exchange and clears airways. Muscles and joints are flexed and stretched, promoting muscle tone.” He says that by some estimates, laughter is a human ability that is about four million years old. “We need to be using it, not stifling it.”
By Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen TheAdventurousWriter.com
Category: Buddhism, Health, Personal Development
Writing by bwerner on Tuesday, 27 of May , 2008 at 3:51 pm
Your Personality Traits Affect Your Body & Immune System
© Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen
Your personality affects your health and ability to bounce back from illness. Here’s how personality traits such as hostility affect your body and immune system.
Your personality affects your health more than you may realize. Your personality traits not only affect your body and immune system, they can also speed up or slow down how quickly you recover from illness.
Does Personality Cause Cancer?
Your personality affects your health because your personality traits dictate how you handle stress. If you are a “nice” person who doesn’t express anger or frustration appropriately, you could damage your health. Some doctors call this the “cancer personality” because personality affects cancer cells. If you’re too nice, you may be repressing negative emotions, which affects your health negatively. Heart disease or even cancer can develop from a suppressed immune system, which can be caused by not making waves and being polite at all costs. Certain personalities are more prone to certain diseases.
Men Versus Women
Researchers at Duke University Medical Center found that negative personality traits increase the risk of coronary heart disease. These negative personality traits include anxiety, hostility, anger, and bouts of depression. The traditional risk factors of heart disease are high blood pressure, elevated cholesterol levels, and extra weight. Each negative personality trait by itself is associated with heart disease; together the traits are the best predictor of your risk for developing heart disease. These researchers encourage doctors to diminish negative personality traits in an attempt to promote long-term health. Being aware of how your personality affects your health can add a few years to your life.
Interestingly – here’s a twist – this Duke study included males only. Studies of women have found that long-term hostility does not make women more vulnerable to heart disease. Women can be equally as hostile as men, but their heart health isn’t affected. Perhaps because women express feelings more openly? Hostile men are twice as likely to have poor heart health, higher cholesterol, and heavier BMI’s than men with low hostility. Women’s health affects personality differently than men’s health does.
Stress Levels
Both men and women who are easily stressed, moody, and nervous tend to have less protective immune systems. Your personality affects your health negatively if you take life too seriously - and you’ll report more symptoms of disease, too. People who are more vulnerable to stressful situations are also more vulnerable to various illnesses; this makes it clear how important it is to deal with stress! If you don’t deal with stress effectively, your personality will affect your health negatively.
The Mind-Body Connection
Harvard University Psychologist Ellen Langer found that many exercise benefits are due to the placebo effect. She studied 84 female housekeepers from seven hotels; approximately half the women were told that their work was enough to meet the requirements for a healthy, active lifestyle while the other half weren’t told anything. After a month, the first group lost an average of two pounds, lowered their blood pressure, and were significantly healthier as indicated by their body-mass index (BMI) than the second group. Langer concluded that health is significantly affected by mind set. So, your personality affects your health negatively or positively depending on your mindset.
Express Yourself
Expressing your emotions and releasing toxic energy is important in maintaining a healthy lifestyle and dodging disease. Expressing yourself appropriately includes pinpointing feelings, communicating honestly, and being physically active to release tension. Your personality affects your health, and it also dictates your energy levels and activities. To get healthy you may already know what relaxes and energizes you, or you may need to experiment a bit!
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Writing by bwerner on Monday, 19 of May , 2008 at 4:02 pm
Most people are more comfortable with old problems than with new solutions.
– Anonymous
Comfort and Security:
It’s something that we all attempt to provide a sense of knowing - a feeling of safety. Familiarity brings with it a certain sense of control, a safe space where our fear of the unacknowledged is less domineering.
Comfort has its downside however. Have you ever stuck in a situation that was familiar, although you knew it wasn’t making you authentically happy? Have you ever thought of trying something, only to stop yourself without accepting a risk? Our attachment to comfortableness c