Personal-Development

Most people’s thoughts about themselves fluctuate daily based on their everyday experiences. How your friends treat you, how well you have done at something, changes in your romantic relationship can all have a temporary impact on your well-being.

Your self-esteem, however, is something more fundamental than the normal “ups and downs” of everyday life. If someone has healthy self esteem normal “ups and downs” may lead to temporary fluctuations in how they feel about themselves but only to a limited extent. For someone who has poor self-esteem these “ups and downs” can make all the difference in the world.

Where does our self esteem come from?

Self-esteem is largely developed during our childhood. It evolves throughout our lives as we build an image of ourselves through our experiences with different people and activities. When we are growing up, our successes and failures and how we are treated by our immediate family, teachers and our peers all contribute to the creation of our self-esteem. For example experiences in childhood that lead to healthy self-esteem include:

• Being praised
• Being listened to
• Being spoken to with respect
• Having trustworthy friends
• Experiencing success in school

Experiences that lead to low self-esteem include:

• Being badly criticized
• Being shouted at
• Being ridiculed, teased or ignored
• Experiencing failure in school
• Being expected to be “perfect” all the time

What does your “inner voice” say?

Everything we have experienced in the past is still alive inside us in the form of an “inner voice”. We don’t often “hear” this voice in the same way we would a spoken one but it acts in a similar way, constantly repeating those original messages to us.

For people with healthy self-esteem our inner voice reassures us and sends positive messages. For people with low self-esteem the inner voice becomes a harsh critic constantly criticizing and belittling their accomplishments.

The three “characters” of low self-esteem

Most of us have an image of what someone with low self-esteem looks like but it is not always obvious. Below are 3 examples of types of people who suffer from low self-esteem:

1. The Impostor – this person always acts happy and successful but is actually terrified of failing. They need continuous success to maintain their mask of positive self-esteem and this can lead to problems with perfectionism, procrastination, competition and ultimately burn-out.

2. The Rebel – this person acts as if the opinions of others – especially important or powerful people – don’t matter. They always need to prove that other’s criticisms or judgements don’t hurt and they carry around a lot of anger about not feeling “good enough”. This can lead to problems like blaming others all the time, breaking the law or rules or fighting against authority.

3. The Loser – this person is unable to cope with the world and they wait for someone to come to the rescue. They tend to use self-pity or indifference as a shield against fear of taking responsibility for changing their life. This can lead to problems such as under-achievement, excessive reliance on others in relationships or lacking any assertiveness skills.

Consequences of low self-esteem

• It can create anxiety, stress, loneliness and increased chances of developing depression
• It can cause problems with relationships and friendships
• It can seriously impair job and academic performance
• It can lead to underachievement and an increased vulnerability to alcohol or drug abuse

How to improve your self-esteem

Before you can even attempt to improve your self-esteem you must first believe that you can change it and also you must need to want to change it. Change doesn’t happen overnight and is not always easy but it can happen! Once you have accepted that you have the power to do something there are 3 steps you can take to begin to change your self-esteem.

1. Challenge the inner critic - here are typical examples of the inner critic’s voice and how you can challenge what it is saying:

Inner critic: Unfairly harsh – “People said they liked what I did but it was nowhere as good as it should have been. I can’t believe no-one noticed all the mistakes I made” Challenge: Be reassuring – “They really liked it. Maybe it wasn’t perfect but I did a good job. I am proud of myself. This was a success”

Generalising unrealistically – “I got a really low mark in this test. I am such an idiot, I don’t understand anything. I shouldn’t be doing this course” Be specific – “I didn’t do as well on this test but I have done ok on the others. There are some things I don’t understand yet but I have done well in other classes that were just as tough as this”

Makes leaps of illogic – “He is frowning at me. He hasn’t said anything but I know it means he doesn’t like me” Think it through logically – “Ok, he’s frowning but it may have nothing to do with me, he could have something worrying him – maybe I should ask him?”

Turning everything into a catastrophe – “She turned me down for a date. I’ll never find a partner. I’ll always be alone” Be objective – “That was a bit embarrassing. Still, I know I’m a nice and attractive person. I’ll find someone else”

It sounds so simple doesn’t it? But you would be surprised at how many people find it difficult to challenge their inner critic! With practice it can be done….

2. Look after and value yourself – you are a deserving and competent person who deserves the best out of life. If you introduce the following tips into your life you will feel a lot better about yourself:

• Get enough sleep, eat healthily, take regular exercise, practice good hygiene
• Go to the cinema, take a nap, have a massage, adopt a pet, spend some time in the garden – DO WHAT YOU ENJOY
• Spend time with positive friends, compliment yourself for achieving something, buy yourself something
• Remind yourself of your strengths/achievements, keep a list of all the things you like about yourself, keep mementos of things you have achieved where you can see them, keep a “success” file of any certificates/awards etc you have and refer to it on a regular basis
• If you make a mistake, just forgive yourself and move on. None of us are perfect!
• “Fake it” until you can “make it” – when you continue to treat yourself well you will feel better about yourself even if initially you don’t believe you deserve it.

3. Get help from others - this is not always easy for people with low self-esteem as they feel they don’t deserve help. However, since low self-esteem is often caused by how others have treated you in the past, you may need the help of others in the present to challenge negative past experiences.

• Ask for support from friends – ask them to tell you what they like about you or what they think you do well
• Ask someone to just listen whilst you “vent” your feelings for a while without trying to “fix” things
• Ask for a hug
• Ask someone who loves you to remind you that they do and why

Sometimes low self-esteem can feel so painful or difficult to overcome that the help of a therapist or counsellor is needed.

One of the advantages of talking to a therapist or counsellor is that you can say anything
in a confidential environment without being judged or having your feelings dismissed as “silly”.

By www.holistictherapiesspain.com

Stay in tune, with my nex post I’ll set you in front of some Test’s for your brain where you can discover who you are.

There is an ancient Tibetan spiritual and religious discipline called Bon whose belief is that the way we think affects everything we do. They believe that to become emotionally and spiritually rich we need to learn how to think skilfully. They also believe that by understanding and transforming our thoughts it is the key to overcoming one of the biggest obstacles in our lives which is fear.

According to Bon there are 12 types of fear that dominate our lives. We may feel one, several or most of these fears and they can become part of our emotional reality from very early on. Yet we are all capable of living without fear, we just need to be careful with our thoughts and start to examine how we live our lives.

The 12 types of fear are divided into two categories – fears within our minds and fears that come about in the material world that we all experience. It can be difficult to separate one from the other as the two groups often overlap. With self-examination and careful thinking you can recognise your own particular fears and discover the extent to which each of them exists within you.

Fears of the mind

These can bring us confusion, pain and stop us from changing the way we think, feel and act.

1. Fear of being yourself

All the following 11 fears originate from this one. The experience of truly knowing yourself is scary for some people – it is life-changing. By acknowledging and understanding this fear we heal all the others.

2. Fear of other people

Most of us have experience being scared of another person at some point in our lives. Let’s face it, a lot of the violence, terrorism and evil in this world is as a result of countries and religions being scared of other countries and religions! When we are no longer afraid of others we gain love of ourselves and a love of all living creatures.

3. Fear of power & control

All power and control which is not motivated by the best of intentions will always be artificial and this will be a burden to those who use it. Even power and control over yourself will hold you back if you don’t share it with others through lack of kindness and generosity.

4. Fear of love

A lot of people are scared of falling in love especially if they have had a previous bad experience. There are also people who long to be in love yet are worried that they will be rejected once the other person discovers their shortcomings. It’s when you find the courage to love fully that you are participating in life completely.

5. Fear of loneliness

If you are afraid of being on your own it means you have not yet discovered the joy of your own company. To be happy and content around other people you firstly need to be happy and content with yourself.

6. Fear of fear itself

For some people their greatest fear is fear itself! To avoid it they become isolated and lonely and hold back from taking part in life. The Tibetan Bon tradition states this fear of fear is not prompted by any outside factor even if you feel it is.

7. Fear of death & dying

Life is fragile and we all know that nothing lives forever. What we need to change however is our perception that death is a bad thing.
Fears of the material world

These are the fears that stop us from living successfully and harmoniously in our daily lives.

8. Fear of success & failure

Some people are scared of success because not only have their dreams come true but they now have to take responsibility for their success. It is exactly the same for failure – when we fail we have to accept and take responsibility for the loss of our dreams. Some people never allow themselves to succeed or fail so great is their fear of both. The only way to overcome this fear is to try and understand why you need and deserve either your success or your failure. From this understanding comes serenity which is far more valuable than either success or failure.

9. Fear of poverty & wealth

The desire to have a lot of money comes from feeling unsafe in the world whilst the fear of poverty comes from feeling in constant danger. Both situations can create anger for they come from the desire to control the material world. However, it is virtually impossible to change the material world when you are in a state of fear. To heal either fear it is important to understand what you have in the world and why and to learn how to use it skilfully. Poverty can be overcome but if your fear of poverty is driving you to make money it will ultimately cause harm to your personality.

10. Fear of the future & what it will bring

Most of us have moments when we are afraid of what the future may bring. This comes from dissatisfaction and the inability to be content with what we have emotionally and spiritually. We have this fear when we are not fully aware of the value of life that we have now. We need to take time to consider our current life or situation and accept it with all the good and bad aspects. The emotional and spiritual value in our present life is the catalyst for our connection to serenity and once we have this connection the future is nothing to be afraid of.

11. Fear of achievement & self esteem

This fear comes about when we come to believe that achievement and a sense of self esteem are the same thing. People believe that if they achieve more they will raise their self-esteem but at the same time they fear achievement feeling they can’t manage it or cope with it because their self esteem is low. The trick is not to get caught up in this vicious circle. Self esteem is the benefit that you or others will gain from this achievement.

12. Fear of war & illness

Throughout history there has always been war but today the fear of war is more prevalent than it has ever been. This is mainly because TV, radio, newspapers etc are able to bring war into our homes. Years ago this was not the case.

The fear of illness is also on the increase as again we are made aware of the many threats of disease that exist. Yes, in the past people lived shorter lives but they had fewer fears of illness or war because they were not forced to confront them on a daily basis via the media.

By www.holistictherapiesspain.com

Be the change you wish to see in the world - Ghandi

Not out of the door you know the world. Not watching from the window you can see the way of heaven. LAO-TZU

Throughout history it was found that the human mind is capable of two types of knowledge, the first mode is that rational held in high regard in the West, the second is that intuitive which generally exactly the opposite is, and is suitable for the oriental attitude. 

The rational conscience belongs to the field of science and intellect, whose function is to analyze, discriminate, divide, compare, measure and sort into categories.
The rational conscience is a system of abstract concepts and symbols, considering in this way the natural environment as if it were made up of separate parts, and constructs an intellectual map of reality, in which things are reduced to their contours. 
The eastern thought and more generally the mystical thought, provides to the theories of contemporary science an important and coherent philosophical reference:  a conception of the world in which the two key issues are the unity and interdependence of all phenomena, and considers the human as an integral part of this system.

What is relevant to the Eastern mystics is the research of a direct experience of reality that transcends not only the intellectual thought, but also the sensory perception.
The conscience that derives from an experience of this type is called by the Buddhist “absolute consciousness” because it’s not based upon discrimination, abstractions, and classifications of the intellect, which are always relative and approximate. It is as the Buddhists say the direct experience of the absolute essence, undifferentiated, undivided, and indeterminate. (Read more…)

There is a forgotten science to which I’ll allude that demonstrates that the universe is composed by also psychologically phenomenon.

 
The THEORY of APPEARANCE

The Psycho-Bio-Physic - Marco Todeschini, The Theory of Appearance

For those who love science in all its aspects, without prejudice and without dogmas, for who knows that there are and there have been scientists and theories that were banned only because the indicate non Orthodox ways to achieve conscience, to all these I would indicate the work of an Italian scientist unfortunately misunderstood also to professionals: Eng. Marco Todeschini (1899-1988).  

Raised in the 50s-70s of the last century to chronicle of scientific honors for his work, founder of Psycho-bio-physic and editor of the theory of Appearance, with which he proposed, for the first time in the world a Global science that includes all physical phenomena, biological and psychological, this remarkable scientist, of origins from Bergamo, contemporary with the birth of the relativity of Einstein, refused he, like many others however, the axioms, finding, through its original research, the explanation of the phenomena of the universe without having to resort to abstruse concepts and without having to contradict the Galilean classical physics.

His work, after 30 years of research, studies and experiences, illustrates exhaustively the phenomena of the universe, able to get along but by its own original way, to the same laws and scientific formulas that shows them. The way followed by Todeschini is initiated at the time by the great Descartes, shelved then from Newton, namely that all the phenomena are caused by the movement of a cosmic substance that fills the entire universe and that was called ether.

In extreme synthesis the theory of Appearance was so named because all the phenomena that we perceive are nothing else than “appearances” generated by effects that arise in our psyche, from the movement of the cosmic fluid when it comes in contact with our senses. Appearances are therefore the sound, light, taste, smell, force, heat, electricity, etc… as they are nothing else than the mental elaboration of nervous stimuli arising from the encounter between the movement of the universal fluid (ether) of varying frequency and our organs of sense, which arrived to the brain, the seat of psyche, are transformed into the concerning feelings, while in reality they are nothing else than the silent waves of ether, dark, tasteless, odorless, athermic, different only in their frequency.

An extraordinary consequence of this theory is that if it is true that everything is generated by the movements of the cosmic ether even the cosmic matter and its fields of forces must be children of that. And in fact, Todeschini, demonstrates how everything can be originated from the atomic nucleus to the galaxies, by the movement of spherical vortices of that substance that swirling at superluminal speed around their centre create, by friction, the rotation of concentric layers thereafter, thus forming ultramicroscopic particles that constitutes the matter and that, according to their rotating direction, create the attraction or repulsive forces that mark them and are responsible of the forms of aggregation of the matter itself.

By deepening his studies understood he that to achieve a unified vision of creation he should also study the biological reality because intermediary in the understanding of the phenomena. With 10 psychophysical equations that generalize the law of inertia of Newton (F = ma), Todeschini shows correspondences between the deceleration of matter against the human body and the feelings that arise in the psyche revealing that all the feelings follow this law (Sn = ma).

The enormous importance of that lies in the fact that for the first time are to introduce in the exact sciences, in addition to the objective physical phenomena, the corresponding physiological and psychological subjective phenomena, so far neglected. He studied, therefore, the structure of the sensory organs of men making an electronic mapping through which he discovered their functioning that made him reach the conclusion that while the pass through of electric current stimulated by the sense organs of men through the nerves a objective physiological phenomenon is, is instead the corresponding feeling a subjective psychological phenomenon that arises from our “I”, when this current arrives at the authority of our brain.
 
All this has led to the development of scientific discoveries and inventions that in addition to confirm the theory have permitted to make useful devices such as artificial prosthesis, the pacemaker, the electric heart, appliances to restore sight to the blind and the hearing to the deaf, etc..
Striking was the invention of the “motor at centrifuge force” (patent 312496-1933) consisting of two masses that rotate independently and synchronously around their center and simultaneously around a common centre, in the way that the resulting centrifugal force can be oriented in a desired direction and effect. The engine is based upon the concept that the centripetal deceleration reaction of the masses lies in fluid space environment and that this reaction is identical with the driving centrifugal force. The functioning of the motor shows therefore
experimentally the fluidity of space. The device was also subject of a report to a ufological congress held in Germany in 1973 with which were proved that the engine could have the same characteristics and opportunity to those used for the propulsion of UFOs.

Nowadays a propulsion system of this type is called “non-Newtonian propulsion” and is subject to studies and research by many Italians and foreign scientists but practically none of them in their works alludes to their precursor Todeschini perhaps through ignorance or perhaps……

There are, however, currently, several cosmogonic and cosmological theories or simply alternative physics that revalue the ether as an irreplaceable element for to understand the phenomenon, in which their authors speak or make clear reference to the work of Todeschini citing his works and, others that despite of being absolutely similar in their concepts do not allude at all to him so as if everything was flour from theirs sack.

It’s symptomatic that this theory has been forgotten despite the sensation that aroused by its appearance and despite the fact that in times that are more recent the scientist has also been proposed to the Nobel Prize. The reasons for this cover-up, for those who know the work, however, are not hard to understand. Indeed in his works Todeschini openly declares his self as opponent to Einstein’s theories because they deny the existence of the ether and because the declare the speed of light as the highest attainable in the universe. In the theory of Appearance however, Todeschini demonstrates the groundlessness of these thoughts of Einstein and of course of all those who are attached to the caravan of science, the so-called official science, cannot pretend as nothing would matter.
Besides this, the theory of Todeschini demonstrates even the existence of spiritual forces for which we can imagine the reaction of the orthodox scientists, clearly positivists, faced with this assertion.
By reading, however, the latest scientific hypotheses, seems it that slowly science is somehow changing mind especially on the theory of Einstein and the Ether chased from the door, is returning from the window. Once again, it seems that nobody flavors Todeschini. 
Here, the great grief that I would like to be shared by more people is precisely that that a personality worthy for the science and for the contribution that he gave, is not recalled and that his work is not divulged either as part of the history of science. I hope that this small tribute can be useful so that prepared people can reassess the work, even in a critically way, and the veil of oblivion may be removed and make return the light to the work of a scientist who humbly sought to advance science not to his advantage but for the benefit of all.
Taken from: www.nuovaricerca.org/tod_prologo.htm and www.mednat.og

It passed by some time since my last post and therefore I have a sense of guilt

PSYCHOLOGY - Defeating the sense of fault - The value of repair

We all make mistakes and we can all make errors. However, if it is true that in a real culture of tolerance errors can be repaired - in our daily reality - dominates the culture of an overwhelming sense of guilt. The sense of guilt comes from a rigid education, hard, blunt, and often hypocritically violent. The archetype of the wise Father, bearer of wisdom and sense of limit, is often far from our hearts and our thoughts.

However, in a world without fathers, violence can only grow without limit and the individuals tend to remain eternally adolescents, eternal Peter Pan, capricious and always looking for something that they not even know how to define. Therefore, we must learn to repair errors. The error is always human and not supernatural: when we commit an error – how serious ever – there were not violated any deity. The mistake should not be brought in celestial spheres of Judgment, but must remain on earth, concrete, real - albeit painfully - human and therefore forgivable. In this way, it - however difficult - is always an error to which you can repair.

This mechanism is of enormous value for the soul of people and in particular for children.
Being aware that our mistakes are repairable (through a gesture, a ritual, a job) allows any person who has committed it not to feel terribly guilty, because this would give rise to a spiral of guilt (the culprit unconsciously always tries to atone and in so doing he is likely to be again in circumstances where he commits more errors, remaining trapped in a vicious diabolical circle).
If our errors are in some way to repair, then we can grow in us the hope that the misdeed can be dissolved, that the fault is not an indelible stain that weighs during the course of our life consciences. Instead of being crushed by the condemnation of guilt we can:
1) take note of the error
2) can assume the responsibility to the bottom
3) we can stop imagine ourselves perfect
4) we can ask forgiveness and forgive ourselves
5) we can then repair and we can devise systems to dissolve the guilt and refuse to stifle forever in our hearts.

The repair is never the total cancellation of an error. The repair does not rewind the tape of life and cancel the error as if it had never been committed. Just as the error is human, even the repair is human and therefore imperfect. Taking up at the bottom of responsibility for our mistakes - in an adult and father manner - means being aware of the pain that our repairs will not be a total cancellation. The error should make us grow; we must mature and evolve through the pain of an imperfect repair, but at the same time, sincere and authentic. Where then we fail to get the repair, can we always get forgiveness.

With kindly permission www.mednat.org

Here’s one more article, yes I know they’re long and are maybe heavy stuff, but there’s no other way to make you caught a glimpse on what we’re and what life is all about. If you want to know what does mean “personal development” you have to know the story from the beginning, to realize why it is important to aspire to a personal evolution and to align so with the whole evolutional process.
There is no Being; there’s only a Becoming!

Synthesis of Spiritual Medicine = Consciousness
The Universe is an immense Energetically and Cybernetic body, this means that it reflects, communicates, memorize, acts, exchanges information to and from every point of itself, therefore is it a Living Being equipped with its own Spirit that tends to make it increasingly complex and Perfect from and to each of its point, by meaning of the Movement and the Materially/Energetically/Spiritually transformation, consequently is it actually also a Psycho-Electro-Magnetic-Informed -Field, which then Informs itself and takes increasingly shape, manifesting continuously Spiritual/Matter which self organizes into new matter that generates Spirit/Thought (it informs itself) in a closed infinite loop.

It is therefore Syntropical apparently Entropic; It’s NON Infinite(Universe), but is in fact the concrete manifestation of the spiritual-matter of the INFINITY, that what has no limit, and this Being, the Universe, tends as everything that is created, to the Infinite, of which it is one of the possible infinitely visible manifestations; It is the manifestation of a state of “consciousness tending to the INFINITE”, which evidences by meaning of the Information(In-Form-Action), the Light, or the Thinking/Energy, that by meaning of all its stats (plasma, liquid, solid, gaseous), transforms into Energy/Matter/Information (In-Form-Action), at atomic, molecular, (inorganic and organic)level, up to the Living Beings, Plants, Animals, Humans and beyond, realizing, and manifesting in their creations, increasingly organized and complex, through the accumulation of information, the elaboration of it, the Thought and then the state of a consciousness of “I AM, I was and I will be”, not only in the individual parties but also throughout the Universe, accumulating information, they become (the tending infinite points/agencies/entities) increasingly Intelligent to re-comprehend on other levels of Conscience the Infinity (Father/Mother), creating other Spirit (Thought) to make it more and more consciously of itself and the others (other Space/Time) to can fill and create more and more with other and new manifestations of matter/thought-spirit, the Universe itself, making it therefore exist and expand tendentially to Infinity. 
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Your psychic identity is how you express your psychic blueprint consciously in a multi-dimensional universe. Your psychic identity is how your senses all merge together to create a particular individual psychic way of expressing yourself, a particular psychic way of making your presence felt in the multi-dimensional universe.

Through your psychic identity you access all those multi-level realms of communication in your subconscious. All the levels of communication within you at a psychic level come together in a unique sensory way. Your senses access who you are through your psychic identity. Through the medium of your psychic identity your senses express who you are. And it’s different for everyone.

Some people have a stronger sensory sense of smell; other people rely more on a sense of touch to give them a psychic feel of what’s happening. And how you combine your different sensory inputs at a communication level is how you identify yourself psychically in the multi-dimensional universe. So
if you have a psychic identity that relies more on your sense of listening, your audio sense, then you will
communicate psychically differently in the universe, you’ll communicate psychically differently with other people on an everyday level.

Your psychic identity isn’t just about how you communicate in this abstract multi-dimensional universe, as if it’s something ‘out there’, separate from your everyday life. Your psychic identity is how you express yourself in every way in every day of your life.

You’re using your psychic identity all the time to reach out to others in your own special sensory way, accessing knowledge from others, interacting with others. Listening and hearing between the words comes more easily to some than others. It’s all part of their special psychic identity. For others it’s intuitively reading between the lines that comes a lot more easily - which is all part of their psychic identity.

Learning about your psychic identity means learning about your senses; learning how your senses operate, learning how your senses operate especially for you. And this can be very, very exciting - it’s a wonderful talent that we all have to sense our way through our day, to sense our way through our lives, to sense our way through our relationships.

Your psychic identity operates in everything you do, in every way you interact with others. The more consciously you can use your psychic identity, use your particular way of interacting with others at an intuitive psychic level, then you will become a much more powerful and influential person than what you are now. People who influence others are people who actually are more in touch with their psychic identity.

Reaching out to others at more intuitive and different levels of communication comes more easily to people who are in touch with their psychic identity. People like this are confident that they can read between the lines or hear things differently, and that they do sense things differently. They stand out in the crowd, knowing that they have a psychic identity, and that they can use it.

Training your senses, practising your senses in a way that increases your psychic ability, confirms and increases your psychic identity in how you interact. Learning about your psychic identity is very important, because as you learn about your psychic identity, you become a more integrated person. The secret is to go on the journey of learning about your intuitive and psychic ability, and then to realise that this is going to put you in touch with your psychic senses, which creates your psychic identity.

How simple it is. You can be more consciously aware of what you are doing already, be more aware of how you already intuitively naturally interact with others, and the reason being that we are using our psychic identity all the time, even at times when we are not aware that we are doing so. Just because we are not conscious that we have a psychic identity, it does not mean we are not still using it to express ourselves in our interactions with others.

In the best interests of ourselves, in following our destiny in the best possible way, relating to others in the best possible way, and also in how we form relationships in the best possible way, we are wise to know our psychic identity.

by Gaye Wright

The aspiration of modern men is to reconcile the antithetical aspects of his personality: he is in the body like an animal, but at the level of the Ego would he like to be similar to a deity. The fate of an animal is the death, which the Ego tries to avoid nourishing divine aspirations. Nevertheless, in trying to avoid their fate men creates a worse: living with the fear of live.

We want love, but we fear to be vulnerable. We want to open ourselves, but we fear the rejection. We want deep feelings, but we fear to be crushed by emotions.
Conditioned to seek success in social terms rather than human success, we give us to a frenetic activity. From this conflict comes a tremendous despair, because beneath the surface of our convulsive life there is constantly the presence of pain. 

To free ourselves from those debilitating fears and replace the “being” with the “to do” is proposed a combination of work on the body and analysis of character that brings to light and resolves the deep sources of the sense of guilt and anger. Instead of changing the self, a bio-energetic therapy seeks to establish a harmony between the exterior and interior world with auto-acceptation, the mastery of self and the auto-expression. The result will be a much more fully life, happier and healthier. (Meditation and Yoga)

Saying that the auto-acceptation determines a change of the own destiny may seem a contradiction, but it is not. When you stop fighting against the fate, you get the rid of the neurosis (inner conflict) and you reach serenity. The result is a different attitude (one is not afraid to live) expressed by a different character and joined to a different fate. In this way, the individual will have the courage to live and die, and be able to auto-realization.

In our culture, we give importance to action, to the accomplished act. The modern individual is required to be successful, not to “being a person”. He belongs to an “active generation” whose motto is “to do more”, but feel less. This attitude characterizes much of modern sexuality: more action but less passion.

Is it the destiny of modern men to be neurotic, being afraid of life? My answer is yes, if we consider modern man belonging to a culture whose values are the dominant power and progress. Since these values characterizes the Western civilization in the twentieth century, results that every person who lives in this civilization is neurotic.

The neurotic individual is in conflict with himself. A portion of him attempts to dominate the other. His Ego tries to subjugate the body, and his rational thought to control the emotions, his will tries to overcome fears and anxieties. Although this conflict is unconscious, its effect is to exhaust the energies of a person and to destroy the peace of mind.
The neurosis is an internal conflict. The neurotic character takes different forms, but all involve a struggle within the individual between what is and what it believes to be. All neurotics are involved in this fight.

Our goals are the power and progress, but we want the pleasure, peace and stability. We do not realize that personal power and pleasure are opposing values and that often the first makes the second impossible. Power inevitably leads to a fight that often opposes the father to the son, the brother to the brother. It’s a separator force in a community. Progress requires a constant activity to transform the old into new, with the conviction that the new is always superior to the old. Although this may be true in some technical areas, this is a dangerous belief. Generalizing, this implies that the son is superior to the father or that tradition is simply the dead weight of the past. There are cultures in which dominate other values, where respect for the past and tradition is more important than the desire for change. In these cultures the conflict is minimized and neurosis rare.

The cultural process that gave rise to modern society and modern men has been the development of the Ego. This development is associated to the acquisition of knowledge and the conquest of the power over nature. Men belong to nature as any other animal and are fully subject to its laws, but he is also on the top of nature, because he is acting on it and controls it.
Men behave in the same way with his intimate nature, a part of his personality, the Ego, rebels to the animal part, the body. The antithesis between Ego and body produces a dynamic tension that promotes the process of culture, but it also contains a potential for destruction. When the separation between Ego and body is such that there is no more contact, the result is the psychotic collapse: I believe that in our culture we have reached this dangerous moment. 

Human life is full of contradictions, and to recognize and accept them is a test of wisdom.
Saying that the acceptance of the own fate determines a change may seem a contradiction, but it is not.
When you stop to fight against destiny, you get the rid of neurosis (internal conflict) and you reach serenity. The result is a different attitude (no more fear to live) expressed by a different character coupled with a different fate.

Therefore, it becomes necessary to look inside ourselves to understand our most intimate feelings and aspirations, because only this can lead us to a personal clarification that shows us that what really makes  the wellbeing in our existence, which frees us from the slavery of the internal conflict and collective neurosis. In this way, it leads us to peace and in the end to happiness.
The best way to practice such is the meditation what allows us to see with calm our most intimate feelings, doing it with a background of meditative music eases and ensures an easy progress and achievement of our self-realization.